Lifestyles of the poor and nameless

I was reading an old issue of PARADE magazine in the PhiladelphiaInquirer (May 15, 2005) when I came across this segment in the "AskMarilyn" column (it's like "Dear Abby")

"Few people would buy a car without a test drive. Many feel the same way about marriage: They wouldn't get married without having sex withthe intended person first, to determine if they are sexually compatibleand if they enjoy each other when making love. Do you think peopleshould try each other out in this way before marriage?"--- K. Cayle,Burke, VA.

Marilyn's response:

"Moral issues aside, if you want to test-drive your intended spouse,you're not in love with him or her. If you were, you would have onlydesire, not doubt. As anyone who has been in love knows, having sex isn't comparable to making love. And if you're not in love, you shouldn't get married."

Hmmm....I can hear the commentary already: *sucking teeth* well, love is great and all, but it won't excuse poor performance.

I guess it comes back to "do I love you because your sex is off da hook, or is your sex off da hook because I love you"? Seems like if your goal is category #2, then you don't need the "test drive", because no matter what, you'll be satisfied. Just my $.02.