Lifestyles of the poor and nameless

Since the Hunter missed our Thursday rendez-vous, we rescheduled forSunday. I told him that maybe Sunday wasn't a good day since it's Mother's day and all. It was OK for me because I was sending my parents out to a play, but I thought he might want to spend the time with his mom. He assured me that it was fine because he would spend the morning with his mom and then come see me around 4pm before he went to work at9.

So I'm on the train leaving NYC and I give him a call to let him know that I should get in around 4:15. That's when he says "oh, we decided to do a mother's day dinner for my mom, so I'm not going to be able to see you today." Ugh.

I couldn't just go back to my place and do nothing. So I called this other guy I was talking to--- Mr. Chips. I call him that because he eats alot of junk food. I think he's a nice guy, and he's always treated me well, but after a particularly intense conversation about spirituality and things of that nature, I felt like maybe we weren't compatible forthe long term. I knew he liked me, but I couldn't figure out a way to tell him what was on my mind, so I just distanced myself while I thought things over.

We kinda made small talk for a while and then he asked "so what do youthink of me?...because I was thinking maybe we could take things to the next level, but I've been sensing a 'disconnect' for the past couple weeks." So we had our talk and I told him what was going on in my head.Then he told me that after our intense conversation a few weeks back, hes poke to one of his friends who agreed with everything I said. That prompted him to re-examine his views. Now he feels like "well, I've been doing it my way all this time and that hasn't worked, so maybe I should try it your way and see what happens." Interesting.

I invited him over and we went walking for about an hour and a half.Then he left and he went to find junk food. Lol. I still haven't gotten to talk to him about the whole eating/fitness issue. Fitness is important to me. I'm not saying that I'm in the greatest shape, but I'm definitely working on it. I think it's cool to be able to work out with your significant other, and motivate each other towards your fitness goals. In another lifetime I was a small whale, and I'm not trying to go back there.

I've been trying to stage these little competitions with him, to challenge him to work out harder, or in the alternative, set things upso we can exercise together. Sunday was good because he actually suggested the walk. But working out one time doesn't entitle you to overdose on junk. Beyond the cosmetics, I'm concerned that he will have severe physical problems later on in life, and will die early if he continues on this present track.

I guess another one of those conversations is in order. In the meantime, welcome back Mr. Chips.