Lifestyles of the poor and nameless

Maybe I'm more scandalous than I thought.....or just bored and seeking male attention. Maybe it was the "young boy" earring, or the uniform or the waves in his hair. Who knows? Whatever it was, it brought me to Mr. Conductor's train car yesterday.
He started in with "You know, you really remind me of my ex" and I asked him if that was a good thing or a bad thing. He said that it was definitely a good thing. He was in love with her, but she was in the military and went off to TX. Yada Yada yada.

So we talked for a good 20 minutes. He asked me questions about myself and I asked him a couple things. About 12 minutes into the conversation, he told me that he is 42 years old and has 2 kids... and they are in college. Well hey, whatever.

About 15 minutes into it, he tells me that he's married and "I want to be honest with you. I'm too old to be playing games. So I'm going to let you know right now that I am not going to leave my wife for you or anything. A man is going to be a man, you know?...so what's your policy on married men?"

Ewwww. The next 5 minutes were impossibly long. "A man is going to be a man"?! I'm so sick of hearing men use that to justify their cheating, womanizing or general lousy behavior. I'm tired of hearing women use it to justify the reason for them accepting this behavior from men.

The irony of it all is that I have yet to meet a man who raises his daughter to believe this tripe. No man I know of ever tells his daughter "well honey, men are going to be men and you should expect that no matter who you end up with, he's going to cheat on you." They wouldn't say it. In fact, the cheaters are usually the same ones telling their daughters' boyfriends: "if you ever hurt her, I'll kill you." Ugh.

People out there may disagree, but me personally, I wouldn't intentionally mess with a married man. If that's your thing, more power to you, but I don't want that kind of karma. Aside from that, I've gone through too much in life to just end up as somebody's side dish. I'm the main course AND the dessert dammit!